Author: ELLE The Druggg

Lifestyle + Motivation Certified Self-love Coach Host of Modern Day Bae Podcast

Doubling Down on Believing in Yourself

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“Keep showing up for your dreams like they’re already yours. Because they are.”

Believing in yourself sounds cute until it’s actually time to do it. Until you’re staring fear in the face, questioning everything you thought you knew, and wondering if you’re really built for the vision God gave you.

That’s where I am right now with Modern Day Bae. Every episode, every idea, every risk feels like a new test in trusting myself. I don’t always feel confident. Some days, I question if I’m really doing enough—or if it’s even working. The numbers might not look how I want, the progress might feel slow, and the self-doubt? Oh, she be loud sometimes.

But I made a choice: I’m doubling down on me.

Because even in fear, growth is happening. Even in uncertainty, lessons are forming. Even when you “fail,” improvement still takes root. And the truth is, we don’t get to skip the uncomfortable parts of believing in ourselves—we grow through them.

When the voice in your head says, “What if it doesn’t work?”

You’ve got to answer back, “But what if it does?”

So if you’re in your own season of becoming, feeling unsure or scared about what’s next, remember this: confidence doesn’t come before the leap—it comes because of it.

Keep going, keep betting on you, and keep showing up for your dreams like they’re already yours. Because they are.

Rich Rising Affirmations | Week of November 3rd

Monday:

I trust myself enough to take the next step, even when I can’t see the whole staircase.

Tuesday:

My fear is just proof that I’m expanding. I move forward anyway.

Wednesday:

Every attempt is an act of growth. Even when I stumble, I’m still moving upward.

Thursday:

Confidence isn’t about knowing I’ll win—it’s knowing I’ll learn no matter what happens.

Friday:

I am my own investment. Every ounce of effort I pour into myself multiplies in time.

Have an amazing week– be kind, do good, live well.

Finding Peace in the Middle of Chaos

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There’s something poetic about standing still in the middle of New York City. Horns honking, people rushing, lights flashing — yet somehow, in all that noise, you can still find quiet if you choose to.

Peace isn’t the absence of chaos. It’s the ability to stay centered while the world moves around you. It’s learning that calm is not a place — it’s a practice.

So many of us wait for things to “settle down” before we can breathe again. But sis, your peace isn’t waiting on perfect timing — it’s waiting on your permission. You can choose stillness in motion. You can choose clarity in confusion. You can choose you, right in the thique of it all.

This week, let your peace be nonnegotiable. Let the world rush if it wants to. You’re allowed to move slower, softer, and more intentionally — even–and especially– in the middle of the madness.

Rich Rising Affirmations: “My Peace Is My Power”

Monday:

Affirmation: I am calm, centered, and grounded — no matter where I am.

Manifest: Pause for 30 seconds today to breathe deeply, wherever you are — train your body to find peace on demand.

Tuesday:

Affirmation: Chaos cannot touch me when I am rooted in peace.

Manifest: When stress hits, place your hand over your heart and repeat this until you feel your energy shift.

Wednesday:

Affirmation: I bring peace with me everywhere I go.

Manifest: Walk outside or through a busy space today, imagining your energy radiating calm into every step.

Thursday:

Affirmation: My peace is not up for negotiation.

Manifest: Set one boundary today — big or small — that protects your mental or emotional space.

Friday:

Affirmation: I am the stillness I seek.

Manifest: Close the week with gratitude for how far you’ve come in mastering your energy and choosing inner calm.

This week’s reminder:

The world doesn’t have to be quiet for you to be at peace. You just have to decide that your peace matters more than the noise. 

Releasing the Need for Control

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Control gives us the illusion of safety. We plan, predict, and perfect—hoping that if we can manage every detail, we can protect ourselves from disappointment, heartbreak, or failure. But the truth is, control often keeps us tense instead of safe.

When we cling too tightly, we stop trusting the flow of life. We move from fear instead of faith. We overthink instead of allowing things to unfold. And before we know it, we’ve traded our peace for the false promise of certainty.

But self-love requires surrender. It’s the soft acceptance that things can still work out even if they don’t go according to plan. It’s knowing that your peace doesn’t depend on perfection—it depends on your willingness to let life love you back.

So this week, loosen your grip. Allow space for surprise. Let yourself believe that what’s meant for you doesn’t need to be controlled—it will arrive when you’re ready to receive it.

Rich Rising Affirmations: “I Trust the Flow”

Monday: I release the illusion of control and trust that life is unfolding for my good.

Manifest: Take three slow, deep breaths and visualize yourself exhaling everything you’ve been holding onto.

Tuesday: I am grounded, even when things feel uncertain.

Manifest: Repeat this whenever anxiety creeps in—especially when plans shift unexpectedly.

Wednesday: I don’t chase outcomes; I align with them.

Manifest: Focus on small aligned actions today, not perfection.

Thursday: I give myself permission to rest in the unknown.

Manifest: Reflect on a time when something worked out better than you could’ve planned—remind yourself how it felt.

Friday: I trust that what’s meant for me will find me with ease.

Manifest: Close your week by releasing one worry and writing down one thing you’re grateful for right now.

This week’s reminder:

Peace isn’t found in control—it’s found in trust. You don’t have to force what’s already yours.

Letting Go Without Fear

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Letting go is not a loss—it’s an act of courage. And you were built for brave things.

Sometimes, the hardest part of growth is releasing what you thought you needed. But peace comes when you realize that letting go doesn’t mean losing—it means making space. Space for better. Space for alignment. Space for what’s truly meant for you.

Too often, we cling to what’s familiar because fear tells us it’s safer to hold on than to trust the unknown. But fear is a liar, sis. We don’t operate from fear—we move from faith, purpose, and power.

This week, I want you to remember: every time you let go of something that no longer serves you, you signal to the universe that you’re ready for something greater. Release the guilt. Release the grasp. And trust that what’s meant for you will never require you to shrink to keep it.

Rich Rising Affirmations

Monday: I release what’s no longer aligned and welcome what’s meant for me.

Manifest: As you start your week, say this aloud while getting ready or driving—feel yourself un-clenching from old attachments.

Tuesday: I trust that letting go creates room for my next level.

Manifest: Journal about one thing you’ve been afraid to release and what peace might look like without it.

Wednesday: Fear does not lead me—faith does.

Manifest: Repeat this whenever you catch yourself overthinking or doubting a transition.

Thursday: I am safe in change and confident in my becoming.

Manifest: Take a few deep breaths and visualize the woman you’re evolving into—secure, grounded, and free.

Friday: What’s for me will always find me.

Manifest: Close your week with gratitude for what has left and excitement for what’s coming.

This week’s reminder: Letting go is not a loss—it’s an act of courage. And you were built for brave things.

Trusting the Process in the Middle of It All

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The hardest part of growth isn’t starting—it’s staying faithful in the middle. When the vision is clear but the results feel slow, doubt creeps in. You question if it’s worth it, if you’re doing enough, or if it will ever happen.

But here’s the truth: the middle is where the magic happens. It’s where your discipline is sharpened, your faith is tested, and your resilience is built. Trusting the process means believing that even when you can’t see the finish line, every step forward is shaping you into the person who can carry what you’re asking for.

So give yourself grace. Celebrate the small wins. Rest when you need to, but don’t quit. Your breakthrough is being built brick by brick, and you’re further along than you think.

💭 Where in your life do you need to lean into trust right now? How can you honor the process instead of rushing it?

✨ Stay faithful. Keep moving. The process is working for you.

3 Ways to Trust the Process This Week

Focus on the step, not the staircase – Take it one move at a time. The big picture can overwhelm you, but daily steps will carry you to the vision.

Celebrate progress over perfection – A small win is still proof that you’re moving forward. Honor it, no matter how minor it feels. After all, small moves make big changes.

Speak faith into your waiting – Replace “it’s not happening” with “it’s happening for me in perfect timing.” Your words keep you aligned with belief, not doubt.

Rich Rising Affirmations + Manifest

Monday:

✨ I trust the process even when I can’t see the outcome.

Manifest: Use this when you feel uncertain—remind yourself faith is greater than fear.

Tuesday:

✨ Every step I take is progress, no matter how small.

Manifest: Speak this when impatience rises—progress is still progress.

Wednesday:

✨ I am becoming the woman my goals require me to be.

Manifest: Repeat when the journey feels long—growth is shaping your strength.

Thursday:

✨ Delays are not denials—everything is aligning in divine timing.

Manifest: Say this when things don’t go as planned—trust the timing, not the clock.

Friday:

✨ I am worthy of the vision I carry, and I will not give up on it.

Manifest: End the week affirming your worthiness and commitment to your dreams.

A Birthday Reflection — Rooted, Rising, Ready

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Another year around the sun, and I can honestly say this one felt different. This year, I chose to ground myself in ways I never had before. I became more financially stable, which gave me not just security, but freedom. I took time to get more acquainted with myself—my needs, my desires, my goals, and the deeper purpose that fuels me. For the first time, I didn’t just move through life on autopilot. I paused, reflected, and honored where I am and where I’m going.

This year taught me that growth isn’t always loud—it’s often in the quiet decisions, the daily discipline, and the way you show up for yourself when no one is watching. I’ve been planting seeds of self-love, consistency, and faith, and I can already feel the roots taking hold.

But the work doesn’t stop here. This coming year, I’m doubling down—on my goals, my podcast, my content, and my vision. I’m hungry for what’s next, excited for what’s unfolding, and committed to showing up bigger, bolder, and brighter.

And when I look at where I’ve come from, I know this journey isn’t just mine—it’s ours. Every reflection, every episode, every post is about building something bigger than me. It’s about creating a space where we can heal, align, and grow together.

So stay tuned, because the best is yet to come. Let’s walk into this next chapter side by side—ready, rooted, and rising. Let’s do this together, because we deserve it.

Rich Rising Affirmations

Monday:

✨ I honor the woman I was, I celebrate the woman I am, and I embrace the woman I am becoming.

Manifest: Speak this to acknowledge your past, present, and future self with love.

Tuesday:

✨ I have prepared my soil for harvest and will not allow fear or control to stop the flow of abundance waiting for me.

Manifest: Use this to call in financial stability and expansion this year.

Wednesday:

✨ My voice, my vision, and my purpose are needed—and I will share them boldly.

Manifest: Repeat before creating content, podcasting, or speaking your truth.

Thursday:

✨ I attract opportunities, partnerships, and platforms that align with my highest calling.

Manifest: Say this when stepping into new ventures and collaborations.

Friday:

✨ This is my season of overflow, and I am ready to receive it fully.

Manifest: Declare this daily as you step into your new year with openness and expectation.

Standing Tall, Rooted in Grace

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Life will test you. People will misunderstand you. Circumstances will shift without warning. But when you are grounded in grace, you cannot be shaken. Grace reminds you that you are worthy even when you stumble, powerful even when you rest, and radiant even when the world tries to dim your light.

Being grounded in grace means you don’t have to force your way forward—you allow alignment to carry you. You give yourself permission to be both soft and unshakable, gentle and firm.

3 Ways to Show Yourself Grace This Week

Release self-criticism – Replace “I should’ve” with “I’m learning.” Speak to yourself like someone you love. Honor your energy – Rest when you’re tired, move when you’re inspired. Stop forcing and start flowing. Celebrate small wins – Don’t wait for big milestones. Every step forward is proof of your growth.

    This week, I invite you to stand tall in your own soil. Anchor yourself in love, water your spirit with kindness, and trust that you already have everything you need to flourish.

    🌱 How will you root yourself in grace this week? Where do you feel most grounded in your life right now?

    ✨ Drop your reflections or affirmations in the comments so we can grow together.

    Rich Rising Affirmations

    Monday:
    ✨ I am rooted in grace, unshakable and whole.
    Manifest: Say this to ground yourself when life feels unstable or chaotic.

    Tuesday:
    ✨ My spirit is anchored in love, and I cannot be moved by fear.
    Manifest: Repeat before difficult conversations or decisions.

    Wednesday:
    ✨ I grow stronger and more radiant with every challenge I overcome.
    Manifest: Use this when you need a reminder that obstacles grow your resilience.

    Thursday:
    ✨ I stand tall in my truth, and my presence is power.
    Manifest: Declare this before walking into rooms where you want to be seen and respected.

    Friday:
    ✨ I bloom with ease because I trust my divine alignment.
    Manifest: Speak this to affirm trust in timing and flow as the week ends.

    When you Live in Alignment, Life Flows

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    Alignment is not about perfection—it’s about harmony. When your choices, values, and actions all point in the same direction, life begins to move with more ease. You stop fighting yourself and start trusting yourself.

    Living in alignment means choosing what nourishes you, even when it’s not the easiest path. It means letting go of what drains you, even when it’s familiar. It’s a commitment to being honest with yourself and brave enough to act on that honesty.

    I know first hand how heavy seeking alignment can feel when you don’t know where to start. It’s almost like a DIY project. There is no real instruction manual. You just have hand-me-down tools that you don’t know how to work with. But that’s also the beauty in alignment. It isn’t one big project with a final destination, it’s a daily practice.

    This week, I want you to practice checking in with yourself. Do this at least 3 times a day. Pay attention to moments when you feel out of sync. Instead of judging yourself, give yourself a jump-start with AAA (see what I did there):

    1. Awareness: Pause & Listen to Yourself
    Slow down long enough to hear your own voice over the noise. Ask yourself: “What do I truly need right now?” Be honest with yourself. Your body, spirit, and intuition will always tell you when something is off. Pro Tip: Record video journals at the end of the day. Share how you feel and why. Play it back to yourself and listen as if having a conversation with your inner child. This will help you grant yourself grace and understanding.

    2. Authenticity: Release What’s Not Serving You
    Misalignment often comes from holding on too tightly—whether to people, habits, or beliefs. Write down what drains you, then commit to letting it go. This means having clear and concrete boundaries. It’s not easy, but that’s when you lean into that grace you so often give others. Give yourself permission to start, even if it’s small. Small releases free up space for flow.

    3. Alignment: Choose in Harmony With Your Truth
    Every aligned decision says: “I trust myself.” Resting when you’re tired. Saying no when you need to. Boldly stepping toward your goals. These actions bring alignment, which arises from making consistent choices. These choices are rooted in self-honor. Very much Queen status.

    Where in your life do you feel most aligned? Where do you feel the tension of being out of alignment?

    ✨ Share your reflections or your own affirmation below—let’s grow in flow together.

    Rich Rising Affirmations

    Monday:
    ✨ I move in alignment, and alignment moves blessings toward me.
    Manifest: Begin your week with clarity, calling in ease and opportunity.

    Tuesday:
    ✨ Every choice I make brings me closer to my divine purpose.
    Manifest: Speak this before making decisions—small or big—to guide yourself with intention.

    Wednesday:
    ✨ I release what no longer serves me and make space for what does.
    Manifest: Repeat this during moments of letting go—whether it’s habits, people, or thoughts.

    Thursday:
    ✨ I honor my truth, even when it challenges comfort.
    Manifest: Say this when you’re tempted to stay silent or play small; alignment requires honesty.

    Friday:
    ✨ I am magnetically aligned with peace, prosperity, and joy.
    Manifest: End your week declaring abundance and harmony as your natural state.

    The Power of Soft Strength

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    Sometimes, we think strength looks like grit, grind, and holding it all together. But real strength often whispers instead of roars. Strength comes in the quiet decision to choose peace over chaos, to prioritize your healing over proving a point, and to trust alignment over control.

    Soft strength is saying “no” without guilt. It’s resting without shame. It’s holding space for yourself in a world that keeps asking for more. This week, I want you to remember: softness does not make you weak—it makes you whole.

    Lean into your grace. Be tender with your thoughts. Treat your body and soul like the sacred space they are. There is power in your pause, beauty in your boundaries, and magic in your alignment.

    weekly affirmations

    Monday:
    ✨ I embody a strength so soft it shakes the world.
    Manifest: Starting your week knowing softness isn’t weakness—it’s your superpower.

    Tuesday:
    ✨ My boundaries are royal gates that protect my peace and purpose.
    Manifest: Protecting your energy like royalty.

    Wednesday:
    ✨ Unshakable peace flows through me, and nothing can disturb it.
    Manifest: Reclaiming your calm.

    Thursday:
    ✨ Every moment of rest I take multiplies my power and alignment.
    Manifest: Not feeling guilty for slowing down—rest is sacred.

    Friday:
    ✨ I walk in divine grace, magnetic confidence, and unstoppable abundance.
    Manifest: Becoming the energy you seek.

    Reflection

    What does soft strength look like in your life? How can you practice it this week?

    ✨ Share your reflections or your own affirmation in the comments. Let’s inspire each other to move with grace and power.

    25 Gender Inclusive Ways to Say “Hey Guys”

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    One of my goals for this year is to stop using gender specific pronouns in group settings. I’m still working on it. It’s challenging, but whatever weak minded excuse you can put here to pardon our comfortable ignorance simply isn’t a good enough reason to ignore people’s identities. Plus for me personally, there’s like this weird voice that comes naturally when I start filming content that makes the phrase “hey guys” sound worse than it already does. No bueno.

    As we celebrate PRIDE MONTH and the 52nd anniversary of the Stonewall Riots, It’s my responsibility to encourage active alley and creating inclusive environments, especially in this little corner of the internet. So I took the liberty of making this handy little list of alternative and inclusive pronouns in hopes we can all continue to grow and be the best advocates for EVERYONE (see what I did there), not only during PRIDE, but each and every day.

    *Friendly reminder: These are strictly for group settings. When interacting on a personal level, I encourage you to seek out the individuals name and preferred pronoun and address the person as such.

    Everybody / Everyone

    Folks / Folx

    Yall / You all / We all

    All Yall / All of you / Each of you

    We all

    People

    Humans

    Members

    Humankind

    Yinz (if you’re in/from Pittsburgh)

    ‘N them (followers n them)

    Any appropriate adjective with the word people (Party people, Beautiful people, Good people)

    Friends

    Darlings

    Crew

    Chums

    Congregation

    Allies

    Beings that aren’t defined by social constructs like pronouns—haha!

    Food names (Pumpkins, Muffins, Cupcakes, etc.)

    Beloved

    Peeps

    Comrades

    Squad

    Team

    So now that we have a starter list of alternative and inclusive group pronouns, let’s put them to practice! Look for opportunities to use these words and build a habit of inclusive language. Like I said before, no excuses!