Category: Healing

Releasing the Need for Control

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Control gives us the illusion of safety. We plan, predict, and perfect—hoping that if we can manage every detail, we can protect ourselves from disappointment, heartbreak, or failure. But the truth is, control often keeps us tense instead of safe.

When we cling too tightly, we stop trusting the flow of life. We move from fear instead of faith. We overthink instead of allowing things to unfold. And before we know it, we’ve traded our peace for the false promise of certainty.

But self-love requires surrender. It’s the soft acceptance that things can still work out even if they don’t go according to plan. It’s knowing that your peace doesn’t depend on perfection—it depends on your willingness to let life love you back.

So this week, loosen your grip. Allow space for surprise. Let yourself believe that what’s meant for you doesn’t need to be controlled—it will arrive when you’re ready to receive it.

Rich Rising Affirmations: “I Trust the Flow”

Monday: I release the illusion of control and trust that life is unfolding for my good.

Manifest: Take three slow, deep breaths and visualize yourself exhaling everything you’ve been holding onto.

Tuesday: I am grounded, even when things feel uncertain.

Manifest: Repeat this whenever anxiety creeps in—especially when plans shift unexpectedly.

Wednesday: I don’t chase outcomes; I align with them.

Manifest: Focus on small aligned actions today, not perfection.

Thursday: I give myself permission to rest in the unknown.

Manifest: Reflect on a time when something worked out better than you could’ve planned—remind yourself how it felt.

Friday: I trust that what’s meant for me will find me with ease.

Manifest: Close your week by releasing one worry and writing down one thing you’re grateful for right now.

This week’s reminder:

Peace isn’t found in control—it’s found in trust. You don’t have to force what’s already yours.

Letting Go Without Fear

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Letting go is not a loss—it’s an act of courage. And you were built for brave things.

Sometimes, the hardest part of growth is releasing what you thought you needed. But peace comes when you realize that letting go doesn’t mean losing—it means making space. Space for better. Space for alignment. Space for what’s truly meant for you.

Too often, we cling to what’s familiar because fear tells us it’s safer to hold on than to trust the unknown. But fear is a liar, sis. We don’t operate from fear—we move from faith, purpose, and power.

This week, I want you to remember: every time you let go of something that no longer serves you, you signal to the universe that you’re ready for something greater. Release the guilt. Release the grasp. And trust that what’s meant for you will never require you to shrink to keep it.

Rich Rising Affirmations

Monday: I release what’s no longer aligned and welcome what’s meant for me.

Manifest: As you start your week, say this aloud while getting ready or driving—feel yourself un-clenching from old attachments.

Tuesday: I trust that letting go creates room for my next level.

Manifest: Journal about one thing you’ve been afraid to release and what peace might look like without it.

Wednesday: Fear does not lead me—faith does.

Manifest: Repeat this whenever you catch yourself overthinking or doubting a transition.

Thursday: I am safe in change and confident in my becoming.

Manifest: Take a few deep breaths and visualize the woman you’re evolving into—secure, grounded, and free.

Friday: What’s for me will always find me.

Manifest: Close your week with gratitude for what has left and excitement for what’s coming.

This week’s reminder: Letting go is not a loss—it’s an act of courage. And you were built for brave things.

Trusting the Process in the Middle of It All

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The hardest part of growth isn’t starting—it’s staying faithful in the middle. When the vision is clear but the results feel slow, doubt creeps in. You question if it’s worth it, if you’re doing enough, or if it will ever happen.

But here’s the truth: the middle is where the magic happens. It’s where your discipline is sharpened, your faith is tested, and your resilience is built. Trusting the process means believing that even when you can’t see the finish line, every step forward is shaping you into the person who can carry what you’re asking for.

So give yourself grace. Celebrate the small wins. Rest when you need to, but don’t quit. Your breakthrough is being built brick by brick, and you’re further along than you think.

💭 Where in your life do you need to lean into trust right now? How can you honor the process instead of rushing it?

✨ Stay faithful. Keep moving. The process is working for you.

3 Ways to Trust the Process This Week

Focus on the step, not the staircase – Take it one move at a time. The big picture can overwhelm you, but daily steps will carry you to the vision.

Celebrate progress over perfection – A small win is still proof that you’re moving forward. Honor it, no matter how minor it feels. After all, small moves make big changes.

Speak faith into your waiting – Replace “it’s not happening” with “it’s happening for me in perfect timing.” Your words keep you aligned with belief, not doubt.

Rich Rising Affirmations + Manifest

Monday:

✨ I trust the process even when I can’t see the outcome.

Manifest: Use this when you feel uncertain—remind yourself faith is greater than fear.

Tuesday:

✨ Every step I take is progress, no matter how small.

Manifest: Speak this when impatience rises—progress is still progress.

Wednesday:

✨ I am becoming the woman my goals require me to be.

Manifest: Repeat when the journey feels long—growth is shaping your strength.

Thursday:

✨ Delays are not denials—everything is aligning in divine timing.

Manifest: Say this when things don’t go as planned—trust the timing, not the clock.

Friday:

✨ I am worthy of the vision I carry, and I will not give up on it.

Manifest: End the week affirming your worthiness and commitment to your dreams.

When you Live in Alignment, Life Flows

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Alignment is not about perfection—it’s about harmony. When your choices, values, and actions all point in the same direction, life begins to move with more ease. You stop fighting yourself and start trusting yourself.

Living in alignment means choosing what nourishes you, even when it’s not the easiest path. It means letting go of what drains you, even when it’s familiar. It’s a commitment to being honest with yourself and brave enough to act on that honesty.

I know first hand how heavy seeking alignment can feel when you don’t know where to start. It’s almost like a DIY project. There is no real instruction manual. You just have hand-me-down tools that you don’t know how to work with. But that’s also the beauty in alignment. It isn’t one big project with a final destination, it’s a daily practice.

This week, I want you to practice checking in with yourself. Do this at least 3 times a day. Pay attention to moments when you feel out of sync. Instead of judging yourself, give yourself a jump-start with AAA (see what I did there):

1. Awareness: Pause & Listen to Yourself
Slow down long enough to hear your own voice over the noise. Ask yourself: “What do I truly need right now?” Be honest with yourself. Your body, spirit, and intuition will always tell you when something is off. Pro Tip: Record video journals at the end of the day. Share how you feel and why. Play it back to yourself and listen as if having a conversation with your inner child. This will help you grant yourself grace and understanding.

2. Authenticity: Release What’s Not Serving You
Misalignment often comes from holding on too tightly—whether to people, habits, or beliefs. Write down what drains you, then commit to letting it go. This means having clear and concrete boundaries. It’s not easy, but that’s when you lean into that grace you so often give others. Give yourself permission to start, even if it’s small. Small releases free up space for flow.

3. Alignment: Choose in Harmony With Your Truth
Every aligned decision says: “I trust myself.” Resting when you’re tired. Saying no when you need to. Boldly stepping toward your goals. These actions bring alignment, which arises from making consistent choices. These choices are rooted in self-honor. Very much Queen status.

Where in your life do you feel most aligned? Where do you feel the tension of being out of alignment?

✨ Share your reflections or your own affirmation below—let’s grow in flow together.

Rich Rising Affirmations

Monday:
✨ I move in alignment, and alignment moves blessings toward me.
Manifest: Begin your week with clarity, calling in ease and opportunity.

Tuesday:
✨ Every choice I make brings me closer to my divine purpose.
Manifest: Speak this before making decisions—small or big—to guide yourself with intention.

Wednesday:
✨ I release what no longer serves me and make space for what does.
Manifest: Repeat this during moments of letting go—whether it’s habits, people, or thoughts.

Thursday:
✨ I honor my truth, even when it challenges comfort.
Manifest: Say this when you’re tempted to stay silent or play small; alignment requires honesty.

Friday:
✨ I am magnetically aligned with peace, prosperity, and joy.
Manifest: End your week declaring abundance and harmony as your natural state.

The Power of Soft Strength

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Sometimes, we think strength looks like grit, grind, and holding it all together. But real strength often whispers instead of roars. Strength comes in the quiet decision to choose peace over chaos, to prioritize your healing over proving a point, and to trust alignment over control.

Soft strength is saying “no” without guilt. It’s resting without shame. It’s holding space for yourself in a world that keeps asking for more. This week, I want you to remember: softness does not make you weak—it makes you whole.

Lean into your grace. Be tender with your thoughts. Treat your body and soul like the sacred space they are. There is power in your pause, beauty in your boundaries, and magic in your alignment.

weekly affirmations

Monday:
✨ I embody a strength so soft it shakes the world.
Manifest: Starting your week knowing softness isn’t weakness—it’s your superpower.

Tuesday:
✨ My boundaries are royal gates that protect my peace and purpose.
Manifest: Protecting your energy like royalty.

Wednesday:
✨ Unshakable peace flows through me, and nothing can disturb it.
Manifest: Reclaiming your calm.

Thursday:
✨ Every moment of rest I take multiplies my power and alignment.
Manifest: Not feeling guilty for slowing down—rest is sacred.

Friday:
✨ I walk in divine grace, magnetic confidence, and unstoppable abundance.
Manifest: Becoming the energy you seek.

Reflection

What does soft strength look like in your life? How can you practice it this week?

✨ Share your reflections or your own affirmation in the comments. Let’s inspire each other to move with grace and power.

Taking the Scenic Route

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Instant gratification has become the way of the world—particularly, the way of our world. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think anyone has ever been excited to be patient. (…if that’s even possible) There is something to be said for putting in the work and embracing the journey. If we are being totally honest, anything worth having requires effort. I hear my momma’s voice saying, “You get what you pay for.”

You do get what you pay for.

I’ll give you an example, and a trigger warning for those who need it.

During the first year of my undergrad, I was raped. I had no clue how to move forward after the assault. I didn’t know how to talk about it. I didn’t know how to process it. I didn’t know how to heal from it, and it showed. I was struggling with feelings of shame, guilt, and unworthiness. I remember being consumed with confusion because I couldn’t determine if I felt validated because someone “wanted” me, or ashamed because I wasn’t worth loosing my virginity in a special or romantic way.

Photo by Aaryn Muhammad of ARYxGOLD FRAMES PHOTOGRAPHY

I went into survival mode and learned to cope with drugs, clothes, attention, and whatever else temporarily validated my insecurities. If I’m being real, I was so far gone it felt like the coping worked. I was living under the false pretense of happiness and fulfillment, and because no one was threatening my illusions of splendor, I invested in emptiness. Did you read that? I said because I lied to myself so much, for so long to cover up my pain, I built myself, my livelihood in delusion. I had no choice but to start over.

The part that stabs at my heart is I believed the copping worked, but it didn’t. It covered up adequately, but it didn’t work for personal growth and the healing process. I truly thought I had overcome my insecurities and hit a heavenly self-love plateau. In my illusion I was perfect, but behind the false lashes I was so far from fulfilled.

Photo by Aaryn Muhammad of ARYxGOLD FRAMES PHOTOGRAPHY

So many time we find ourselves doing things that make us feel good after trauma, and that’s cool but it’s important to remember to do things that are uncomfortable so we don’t end up living in toxicity.

I’ll be honest, these days I’m still working toward healing the right way. I’m still building the habit of wildly and unapologetically loving myself. I’m still growing into fulfillment, and that’s okay! Don’t get me wrong, it’s taking foreverrr, and the process is a messy one, but this time I want to intentionally invest in my best self. I needs that ROI, okay?! So, the ancestors and I are buckled in for the journey—we’re trusting the process in full and taking the scenic route.