Tag: Self-love

Letting Go Without Fear

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Letting go is not a loss—it’s an act of courage. And you were built for brave things.

Sometimes, the hardest part of growth is releasing what you thought you needed. But peace comes when you realize that letting go doesn’t mean losing—it means making space. Space for better. Space for alignment. Space for what’s truly meant for you.

Too often, we cling to what’s familiar because fear tells us it’s safer to hold on than to trust the unknown. But fear is a liar, sis. We don’t operate from fear—we move from faith, purpose, and power.

This week, I want you to remember: every time you let go of something that no longer serves you, you signal to the universe that you’re ready for something greater. Release the guilt. Release the grasp. And trust that what’s meant for you will never require you to shrink to keep it.

Rich Rising Affirmations

Monday: I release what’s no longer aligned and welcome what’s meant for me.

Manifest: As you start your week, say this aloud while getting ready or driving—feel yourself un-clenching from old attachments.

Tuesday: I trust that letting go creates room for my next level.

Manifest: Journal about one thing you’ve been afraid to release and what peace might look like without it.

Wednesday: Fear does not lead me—faith does.

Manifest: Repeat this whenever you catch yourself overthinking or doubting a transition.

Thursday: I am safe in change and confident in my becoming.

Manifest: Take a few deep breaths and visualize the woman you’re evolving into—secure, grounded, and free.

Friday: What’s for me will always find me.

Manifest: Close your week with gratitude for what has left and excitement for what’s coming.

This week’s reminder: Letting go is not a loss—it’s an act of courage. And you were built for brave things.

Taking the Scenic Route

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Instant gratification has become the way of the world—particularly, the way of our world. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think anyone has ever been excited to be patient. (…if that’s even possible) There is something to be said for putting in the work and embracing the journey. If we are being totally honest, anything worth having requires effort. I hear my momma’s voice saying, “You get what you pay for.”

You do get what you pay for.

I’ll give you an example, and a trigger warning for those who need it.

During the first year of my undergrad, I was raped. I had no clue how to move forward after the assault. I didn’t know how to talk about it. I didn’t know how to process it. I didn’t know how to heal from it, and it showed. I was struggling with feelings of shame, guilt, and unworthiness. I remember being consumed with confusion because I couldn’t determine if I felt validated because someone “wanted” me, or ashamed because I wasn’t worth loosing my virginity in a special or romantic way.

Photo by Aaryn Muhammad of ARYxGOLD FRAMES PHOTOGRAPHY

I went into survival mode and learned to cope with drugs, clothes, attention, and whatever else temporarily validated my insecurities. If I’m being real, I was so far gone it felt like the coping worked. I was living under the false pretense of happiness and fulfillment, and because no one was threatening my illusions of splendor, I invested in emptiness. Did you read that? I said because I lied to myself so much, for so long to cover up my pain, I built myself, my livelihood in delusion. I had no choice but to start over.

The part that stabs at my heart is I believed the copping worked, but it didn’t. It covered up adequately, but it didn’t work for personal growth and the healing process. I truly thought I had overcome my insecurities and hit a heavenly self-love plateau. In my illusion I was perfect, but behind the false lashes I was so far from fulfilled.

Photo by Aaryn Muhammad of ARYxGOLD FRAMES PHOTOGRAPHY

So many time we find ourselves doing things that make us feel good after trauma, and that’s cool but it’s important to remember to do things that are uncomfortable so we don’t end up living in toxicity.

I’ll be honest, these days I’m still working toward healing the right way. I’m still building the habit of wildly and unapologetically loving myself. I’m still growing into fulfillment, and that’s okay! Don’t get me wrong, it’s taking foreverrr, and the process is a messy one, but this time I want to intentionally invest in my best self. I needs that ROI, okay?! So, the ancestors and I are buckled in for the journey—we’re trusting the process in full and taking the scenic route.