Tag: self love journey

Doubling Down on Believing in Yourself

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“Keep showing up for your dreams like they’re already yours. Because they are.”

Believing in yourself sounds cute until it’s actually time to do it. Until you’re staring fear in the face, questioning everything you thought you knew, and wondering if you’re really built for the vision God gave you.

That’s where I am right now with Modern Day Bae. Every episode, every idea, every risk feels like a new test in trusting myself. I don’t always feel confident. Some days, I question if I’m really doing enough—or if it’s even working. The numbers might not look how I want, the progress might feel slow, and the self-doubt? Oh, she be loud sometimes.

But I made a choice: I’m doubling down on me.

Because even in fear, growth is happening. Even in uncertainty, lessons are forming. Even when you “fail,” improvement still takes root. And the truth is, we don’t get to skip the uncomfortable parts of believing in ourselves—we grow through them.

When the voice in your head says, “What if it doesn’t work?”

You’ve got to answer back, “But what if it does?”

So if you’re in your own season of becoming, feeling unsure or scared about what’s next, remember this: confidence doesn’t come before the leap—it comes because of it.

Keep going, keep betting on you, and keep showing up for your dreams like they’re already yours. Because they are.

Rich Rising Affirmations | Week of November 3rd

Monday:

I trust myself enough to take the next step, even when I can’t see the whole staircase.

Tuesday:

My fear is just proof that I’m expanding. I move forward anyway.

Wednesday:

Every attempt is an act of growth. Even when I stumble, I’m still moving upward.

Thursday:

Confidence isn’t about knowing I’ll win—it’s knowing I’ll learn no matter what happens.

Friday:

I am my own investment. Every ounce of effort I pour into myself multiplies in time.

Have an amazing week– be kind, do good, live well.

Finding Peace in the Middle of Chaos

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There’s something poetic about standing still in the middle of New York City. Horns honking, people rushing, lights flashing — yet somehow, in all that noise, you can still find quiet if you choose to.

Peace isn’t the absence of chaos. It’s the ability to stay centered while the world moves around you. It’s learning that calm is not a place — it’s a practice.

So many of us wait for things to “settle down” before we can breathe again. But sis, your peace isn’t waiting on perfect timing — it’s waiting on your permission. You can choose stillness in motion. You can choose clarity in confusion. You can choose you, right in the thique of it all.

This week, let your peace be nonnegotiable. Let the world rush if it wants to. You’re allowed to move slower, softer, and more intentionally — even–and especially– in the middle of the madness.

Rich Rising Affirmations: “My Peace Is My Power”

Monday:

Affirmation: I am calm, centered, and grounded — no matter where I am.

Manifest: Pause for 30 seconds today to breathe deeply, wherever you are — train your body to find peace on demand.

Tuesday:

Affirmation: Chaos cannot touch me when I am rooted in peace.

Manifest: When stress hits, place your hand over your heart and repeat this until you feel your energy shift.

Wednesday:

Affirmation: I bring peace with me everywhere I go.

Manifest: Walk outside or through a busy space today, imagining your energy radiating calm into every step.

Thursday:

Affirmation: My peace is not up for negotiation.

Manifest: Set one boundary today — big or small — that protects your mental or emotional space.

Friday:

Affirmation: I am the stillness I seek.

Manifest: Close the week with gratitude for how far you’ve come in mastering your energy and choosing inner calm.

This week’s reminder:

The world doesn’t have to be quiet for you to be at peace. You just have to decide that your peace matters more than the noise. 

Releasing the Need for Control

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Control gives us the illusion of safety. We plan, predict, and perfect—hoping that if we can manage every detail, we can protect ourselves from disappointment, heartbreak, or failure. But the truth is, control often keeps us tense instead of safe.

When we cling too tightly, we stop trusting the flow of life. We move from fear instead of faith. We overthink instead of allowing things to unfold. And before we know it, we’ve traded our peace for the false promise of certainty.

But self-love requires surrender. It’s the soft acceptance that things can still work out even if they don’t go according to plan. It’s knowing that your peace doesn’t depend on perfection—it depends on your willingness to let life love you back.

So this week, loosen your grip. Allow space for surprise. Let yourself believe that what’s meant for you doesn’t need to be controlled—it will arrive when you’re ready to receive it.

Rich Rising Affirmations: “I Trust the Flow”

Monday: I release the illusion of control and trust that life is unfolding for my good.

Manifest: Take three slow, deep breaths and visualize yourself exhaling everything you’ve been holding onto.

Tuesday: I am grounded, even when things feel uncertain.

Manifest: Repeat this whenever anxiety creeps in—especially when plans shift unexpectedly.

Wednesday: I don’t chase outcomes; I align with them.

Manifest: Focus on small aligned actions today, not perfection.

Thursday: I give myself permission to rest in the unknown.

Manifest: Reflect on a time when something worked out better than you could’ve planned—remind yourself how it felt.

Friday: I trust that what’s meant for me will find me with ease.

Manifest: Close your week by releasing one worry and writing down one thing you’re grateful for right now.

This week’s reminder:

Peace isn’t found in control—it’s found in trust. You don’t have to force what’s already yours.

Taking the Scenic Route

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Instant gratification has become the way of the world—particularly, the way of our world. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think anyone has ever been excited to be patient. (…if that’s even possible) There is something to be said for putting in the work and embracing the journey. If we are being totally honest, anything worth having requires effort. I hear my momma’s voice saying, “You get what you pay for.”

You do get what you pay for.

I’ll give you an example, and a trigger warning for those who need it.

During the first year of my undergrad, I was raped. I had no clue how to move forward after the assault. I didn’t know how to talk about it. I didn’t know how to process it. I didn’t know how to heal from it, and it showed. I was struggling with feelings of shame, guilt, and unworthiness. I remember being consumed with confusion because I couldn’t determine if I felt validated because someone “wanted” me, or ashamed because I wasn’t worth loosing my virginity in a special or romantic way.

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I went into survival mode and learned to cope with drugs, clothes, attention, and whatever else temporarily validated my insecurities. If I’m being real, I was so far gone it felt like the coping worked. I was living under the false pretense of happiness and fulfillment, and because no one was threatening my illusions of splendor, I invested in emptiness. Did you read that? I said because I lied to myself so much, for so long to cover up my pain, I built myself, my livelihood in delusion. I had no choice but to start over.

The part that stabs at my heart is I believed the copping worked, but it didn’t. It covered up adequately, but it didn’t work for personal growth and the healing process. I truly thought I had overcome my insecurities and hit a heavenly self-love plateau. In my illusion I was perfect, but behind the false lashes I was so far from fulfilled.

Photo by Aaryn Muhammad of ARYxGOLD FRAMES PHOTOGRAPHY

So many time we find ourselves doing things that make us feel good after trauma, and that’s cool but it’s important to remember to do things that are uncomfortable so we don’t end up living in toxicity.

I’ll be honest, these days I’m still working toward healing the right way. I’m still building the habit of wildly and unapologetically loving myself. I’m still growing into fulfillment, and that’s okay! Don’t get me wrong, it’s taking foreverrr, and the process is a messy one, but this time I want to intentionally invest in my best self. I needs that ROI, okay?! So, the ancestors and I are buckled in for the journey—we’re trusting the process in full and taking the scenic route.